Does the person you are thinking of having a serious relationship with have any negative traits that you would not like to show up in your children?

When we date someone we are usually fully engaged in the moment and can’t seem to get enough of them. We tell our friends and sometimes family members about this great guy or great girl we’ve just met. With our emotions flying so high it is definitely not expected that anyone would be thinking of several years down the road and how it would look having children with this person. That being said, it might not be a bad idea to look at this especially if you are a person that would like to have children someday. Obviously, it takes time to get to know another person. But we should be on the lookout for negative traits that appear to be imbedded in the person. Some might call them deal-breakers while others might not realize these potentially negative traits until much later. Lastly, some of the traits that you might see doesn’t necessarily have to be “negative” often it can be a case of “I did not know myself”!

Suggestions before entering into a serious relationship.

1. Ask questions of the persons medical and family history.
2. Ask their definition of a healthy relationship.
3. Ask them if they are familiar with the 17 manifestations of the flesh.
4. Ask them their definition of commitment.
5. Ask them about their family relationship history.
6. Ask them what the word monogamy means to them.
7. Ask if they think love is enough to keep a relationship together.
8. Ask if they have any areas that they would like to improve upon.
9. Ask them to share their world view with you.
10. Ask them if they believe they are a giving person.
11. Ask them to share with you their definition of success.
12. Ask them how they view people as a whole.

These questions will not only give you insight into the person that you are thinking of giving your heart. But will also help you in making a well informed decision with your eyes wide open so you never have to say” I didn’t Know”.