Do you think your family bloodlines will work well together?

In our American culture it is common to see a person that you find attractive and feel drawn to them, or at least want to meet them. And being that we love romantic movies and romantic novels. We have this vision of meeting someone who will whisk us away from all the problems of life and then live happily ever after. We admit that this picture is a wonderful one. However, it is far from the truth of what really happens after we give our hearts to someone. In fact we often choose without the knowledge of what will come with the person of whom we’ve opened our heart. Love takes time and getting to know someone can often take even more time. Some of the ways in which we have chosen romantic partners over the years have led to shocking divorce rates. The reason, we have not considered the following:

The current way of our culture:

1. Boy meets girl or girl meets boy.
2. They have intimate conversations.
3. They begin dating each other.
4. They have sex together.
5. They give their hearts to one another.
6. They then decide to introduce their family members to their partner.
7. They will sometimes ask the parents “what do you think about my partner”.
8. Then ask for a blessing or approval over their choice after they have already given their heart.
9. They then marry their partner of choice.

The renewed approach:

1. Boy meets girl or girl meets boy.
2. They have intimate conversations.
3. The moment you feel your heart is preparing to open…
4. Make the decision to allow them to meet someone that is close to you and whose opinion you respect and value. (Could be a Mother or Father, Grand Parent Aunt, Uncle, Pastor, or very close friend). This is a way to protect your own heart as the heart can blind us when we have strong feeling for someone.
5. If you are given the greenlight you can begin dating the person of interest.
6. The next step is tricky. Once you begin to spend a lot of time with someone whom you find attractive and interesting. The natural tendency is to have sex with them.
7. This can be dangerous. Because once you have sex with another person you become one with that person. And once you become one with them. It is very difficult to pull away from them if you find that they are not the right person for you after all.
8. Now you might have come to the conclusion that this person is not who you thought they were. However, you will find yourself in a struggle as it is often difficult to see yourself without them because The Heart Has Difficulty Distinguishing Realities Whether good or Bad. Haven’t you heard someone say.” I know they are not good for me I just can’t see myself without them”.
9. So what now? This journey can be a long one. Once a choice is made a path is now open to you. If it ends up not being the right choice it will often take longer to get off the path than it did to get on the path.

Does our bloodlines work together?

This question might sound foreign. However, the divorce rate in the U.S is at 50%. So we believe we need to look deeper at what can help us have greater success rates with marriages as a whole. Below are a few nuggets for you and you partner to consider. (This is your homework assignment)

1. Study the word Iniquity and its true meaning and discuss it with your partner.
2. Find out the definition for the word lineage.
3. Study the word legacy together and its meaning.
4. Study the word inheritance and its meaning.
5. Find out what the manifestations of the flesh are and discuss with your partner.
6. Ask yourself if you’ve done enough work on the inner you to be a blessing you your partner.